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Receiving messages from new connections

How to accept or decline messages from new connections

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Written by Andrew Dowling
Updated over a week ago

Each time you receive a message from a new connection β€” that is, another member who hasn't previously exchanged messages with you β€” it's a signal that the other member would like to connect with you.

We call these messages connection requests.

Connection requests have special significance on Stitch. It's the most direct way to make new friends or find romance.

However, there's nothing worse than sending out a connection request and never receiving a reply. So as a member of the community, we ask that you respond to all connection requests in some way β€” even a simple thank you can go a long way!

Of course, we understand you will only have time to connect with some members who message you. Still, we can't understate how much it would mean to other members if you personally respond.

When you receive a new connection request, you are provided with three quick response options:


We'd love it if you could respond personally, even to say "thanks but no thanks". If you click this option, you can write your response.


If you don't have the time, you can click this option, and a pre-written message will be provided. You can choose to either add to it or write your own.


We know that some messages can be unsavory. If the message offends you or leaves a negative impression, you can flag the message for review by the Stitch team.

If you wish to stop the member from messaging you further, you can Block them. If you believe the member is behaving against the Stitch community guidelines, you can Report them to the Stitch team.

Outstanding connection requests

If you haven't responded to a connection request within a few days, the next time you open Stitch you will be prompted that you have connection requests outstanding:

You'll keep seeing this message until you respond to all the connection requests you've received, either by replying, declining, or flagging the message as inappropriate.

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